82. Toxic Teachers Part 2: How to Deal with Challenging Colleagues
In Episode 81, I gave you the first part of how to self-coach yourself in any challenging relationship and that first part is to take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings about this person.
(Do not underestimate this step, my friends! Responsibility means getting out of victim mentality and it is HUGE!)
Step 2 is to INTENTIONALLY decide to be in a relationship with this person. You heard me. You need to deliberately decide to be in relationship with them.
To decide to be in a relationship, ask yourself:
1. Who do I want to be? (NOT WHO DO YOU WANT THEM TO BE, who do YOU want to be?)
2. How do you want to behave?
3. How do you want to think about this person?
4. How do you want to act?
There is SO MUCH power, especially at school, to decide that you will be a CERTAIN way no matter how someone else acts.
So Step 1 is doing your own work of taking responsibility.
Step 2 is deciding ahead of time who you want to be so that you are not a helpless victim without any power with this person.
Step 3: Realize that everyone gets to act exactly as they want. It is EXHAUSTING to even think we can control others and we know we can’t.
To repair any relationship, only one person needs to clean up his/her side of the street.
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